Rules of Office Romance: Keeping it 100% Professional

Have you ever felt a love thing for your colleague but didn't know what to do or how to act? Well this post is for you.

Love happens, even within the four walls of an organization. Many relationships and marriages started out in the office, so hey! you're not alone. However, if you are going to consummate a relationship with a coworker, there are some rules you would have to play by so you don't hurt your career.


RULE 1
Affairs  Relationship: Call it an affair, fling, situationship or the likes but by all means do not have an affair with your colleague. Affairs are messy, ingenuine and they also raise questions about your integrity. If you're going to have anything other than a professional relationship with your colleague, please make sure it is a genuine and exclusive relationship between two consenting adults.

RULE 2
What does your organization's policy say about relationships between colleagues? Be sure to make your findings about this as some organizations frown on relationships within the organization. Some however require one partner moves to another unit or location. After making your findings, have a chat with your SO so you both understand consequences and actions to be taken upon agreeing to start a relationship

RULE 3
Get the Word Out: I'm sure you do not want another female colleague making passes at your man reason being that no one knows you both are an item. This is not to say you should go around telling everybody but tell a few key people (most importantly, your boss) and the news will spread itself. Also, when asked about your relationship, do not deny or brush it off.

RULE 4
No Office PDAs (Public Display of Affection): So now everyone knows you both are an item, that doesn't give you the license to go beyond the professional boundaries within the confines of the office. You should not be seen being less than professional with each other.

RULE 5
Don't mix work and emotions: Difficult as it may seem, you cannot afford to let your emotions interfere with your work. If you both have a misunderstanding, you can settle it outside of work but by all means do not let it come to bear on your work. If you both are supposed to work on a project together, do not stall the project because of personal issues. Carry on with each other professionally as expected.

RULE 6
Don't use your relationship as an excuse to avoid work: Don't spend too much time in the lunch room with your SO or in the office corridors talking and having a good time while work waits to be done. Remember you have him to yourself after work hours.

BONUS RULE
While we all go into relationships with hopes that they will last forever, breakups do happen. Few things are as painful as having to work with someone you just broke up with. However, this is what you invariably signed up for when you both agreed to start a relationship. Do not let the breakup spiral into a bitter work environment in which people are forced to take sides. Be a good sport about it and go about your work like nothing happened.

Cheers to a Fabulous Friday!

- Love Truly, Molz

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The Office Girl Code

Who says you have to be friends with your female colleague? No one! However, there are some unspoken girl codes you should observe in the workplace.

Code 1: Bring a wardrobe malfunction to her notice...politely and discreetly! If you observe a female colleague's button is loose, bring it to her attention and not to the attention of the whole office. If it's something you can help with, offer assistance. Who knows, it might be your turn tomorrow.

Code 2: Avoid office rivalry/competition. Do not forge alliances with other female colleagues in order to get at one female colleague. What this means is that the fact that you can't be her friend doesn't mean others can't be friends with her. Do not let your other female colleagues feel like they have to pick sides.

Code 3: Don't put down or belittle your female colleague's effort especially to your boss. Letting her have her shine doesn't dim yours.

Code 4: Share your beauty regimen and fashion tips if asked. If your female colleague asks you about where you got that dress or what hair you got on, please  share. Why do we always like to be vague about those kind of questions anyway?

Code 5: Only get as involved in her personal life as she allows you to. Don't be so eager to know everything about her life outside of work and don't force hangouts if she is reluctant. Give her space and give her time.

The codes are endless and maybe we will look at some more office girl codes in another post.

You can share some more girl codes in the comment section. Have a Fabulous Friday!

- Love Truly, Molz

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May Day: The Eight Hour Movement

International Workers' Day

 While May 1st is celebrated in some cultures to signify the arrival of Spring, in many countries all around the world, May 1st is declared as a public holiday known as "International Workers' Day" or "Labour Day".

Let's share a brief history behind the International Workers' Day celebration.

In 1884, the Federation of Organized Trade and Labour Unions declared that beginning May 1st 1886, an Eight hour day should become a standard, legalized  labour day in the United States.

On May 1st 1886, history has it that thousands of workers went on a peaceful demonstration for the implementation of the eight hour day as many were still working as long as sixteen hours and for some, even twenty hours.

What was supposed to be a peaceful demonstration turned out to be a chaos as the police opened fire at the protestants following claims that they hurled a bomb at the police.

This led to further riot (the Haymarket Affair) which left seven policemen and one civilian dead and several injured.

It will interest you to know that even though it all started in the United States,   Labor Day in America is celebrated on the first Monday in September (this is history for another day). However, many countries have adopted May 1st as International Workers' Day.

The Eight Day Movement proposes that of the 24 hours a day that every worker has, 8 hours should be allocated to work, 8 hours to recreation and 8 hours to rest.

What do you think about this eight hour movement? Would organizations get more out of employees if this is implemented?

Happy International Workers' Day !!!

- Love Truly, Molz

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